It’s time for some loving.
.. With Valentine’s Day here, the one specific day of the year dedicated all to love, I wanted to send some love your way.
It’s rare that we all feel 100% great about ourselves 100% of the time, in fact I’d go as far to say it’s damn right impossible. We all have our insecurities, and that’s okay.
I know you’ll have heard it all before, clichés are likely to be interwoven throughout this post, but you’ll tend to find there’s a lot of truth behind these cheesy mantras.
Having a healthy relationship with yourself is so valuable.
Self-love is the key, it must come before anything else, for everything else to be worthwhile.
“Self-love isn’t vanity. It is sanity” André Gide
Everything must start with love, it’s the only way to get through this life sanely.
Run yourself a bath and be generous with the bubbles, buy the new outfit purely because it makes you feel good, get up ten minutes earlier to enjoy a cup of tea, or in contrast get up ten minutes later to enjoy the lie in, heck spend all morning in bed if you can!
It’s so important!
But it’s more than that. It’s more than the bubble bath and the nice outfit, at the core of it all, it’s all about what’s going on inside.
Do you love yourself?
Seriously, do you?
Are you showing yourself love?
In the midst of everyday life, it’s so easy to neglect ourselves. In fact, worse than that, it’s so easy to forget our self worth. I’m a massive advocate for the fact that it all starts from within! It’s no secret that we all have our off days, and our minds can be sneaky little devils that far from help the situation. But it’s important to be conscious of when these bad days, and bad thoughts are happening far too regularly.
“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha
We need less of the cruel self-talk, and more love. Focus on loving affirmations and mantras. Look at yourself in the mirror, what do you like? Nothing? Well try again – you are beautiful.
“Comparison is the thief of joy”, oh what a quote. In today’s world, it’s so easy to compare yourself to others, particularly physically. With perfectly posed images of tanned and toned girls making a regular appearance on our Instagram feed, it’s difficult to not let this take a knock on your ego. Be mindful of what content makes you feel positive and what has the opposite effect.
We all become so fixated on physical appearance, which don’t get me wrong, is only natural – I’m not saying it’s a bad thing. But just remember how much more there is to us all. Not only is our personal appearance only a shell to encase the real beauty, but I think it’s important to put emphasis on how much our body is able to do for us. The majority of us have the ability to use our legs, write, read, hear, listen, taste, see, talk, let’s not take all of this for granted.
Back to the real purpose of this post, I want you to leave feeling better, feeling a little, or a lot, more love/d. As human’s we tend to navigate and fixate on the bad, but this just leads to a negative mindset. Let’s focus, today (and everyday!) on your wins, your triumphs, your best values, how you make other’s feel, because goodness, there are so, so many!
I wish I could tell you personally how much of a gorgeous human you are, regardless of the fact I may not know you personally, I don’t say this lightheartedly (pinky promise).
At the end of the day, as bitter-sweet as it is, you are the only company you are guaranteed of. So make it a priority to learn to love and accept yourself for everything that you are – and everything that you’re not.
So the message I want you to take from this, in essence, is completely about self-love. This comes in plenty of forms: mentally, emotionally or physically, a balance of all three is crucial.
Are you good to yourself?
Truly good to yourself?
Take a step back.
Look after you.
Show love & give love.
(By the way, If you haven’t been told recently, you’re pretty damn amazing!)
All (plus a little more) of my love,